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Dating apps are more dangerous than you think



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Meeting people in real life is hard, maybe harder these days than ever before. When you meet someone in real life and want to ask them on a date, you’re taking a big risk. And we’re all hyper-aware of that risk, well, most of us. The odd thing about this is that even with all of their issues, dating apps seem to work.

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  • she chose a guy that has as many options as she does. difference is that he has to work hard for years to be seen as "high value" to be able to get the date. so he left her exploring his newfound options and made a habit of being a dieck. end of the day he has as many options as most women. even the overweight women.

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  • This is interesting. Even though i am not yet dating, at almost 60 the world has really changed a lot. First i thought online dating is a tool but realizing later that it is like Facebook. People pretending, or not sharing anything. I wonder if this is really only a money machine that lures you in, when you get hyped and hopes but if no one is actually willing to actually want to know you, what is the point then. I think i probably will join RL groups to know more people. So that i can find someone at one point that knows me already a little. And it reminds me that when i was on Reddit following the dating group, no one seemed to actually found a match or just was shallow to begin with. I kind of reject to be in a constant competition where a better looking person is just around the corner and you end up with nothing because the other person is just looking for "the one".

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  • I just want to be rich and live far away from everybody but still see my parents and siblings sometimes.

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  • I wonder how many people deleted there dating profiles mid video…. And then regretted it when he said they work lmao! It’s true we need to grow a pair and ask out the person we like and not look for just hook ups

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  • I’ve noticed that people keep talking shit about dating apps.

    So, what are we singles supposed to do, sit at home and be mad and miserable? Really?

    I’d rather be on a dating app than not getting any “🍆” at all.

    …but that’s just me.

    😂🤷🏻‍♀️

    (…and no, I’m not into hookups.)

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  • I don't think what the narrator described first in the video is a good representation of dating apps. Like most men DON'T HAVE THIS LUXURY of monkey branching between the options. It's only the top guys and pretty much all women on them. Women especially because they're the rare resource. There is probably 1 women for 4 dudes. Another way to see it is price gouging on Amazon during the pandemic. A 10 lbs plate worth $100 because there was just not enough supply for way too much demand.

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  • WOW!!! It's a miracle that a guy found a match and actually went on a date with her…!!!
    I wish that happened to me.
    I KNOW I'M PATHETIC!!!

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  • The Idea of Romantic Love actually goes back to the Middle Ages
    The word Romance is from the stories of Cretien de Troyes (1100s), the inventor of fiction btw
    Writing in Old French instead of Latin, which was usual at the time, the word Romance refers to the vernacular language, French
    Given the idea of romantic love only circulated then among a tiny and educated Elite who had access to Literature
    Maybe it became commonplace in the 19th century

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  • Bro asking out coworkers is sexual harrassement once they say no it's gonna be a problem trapping people is not ok

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  • True.. lot of scamer

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  • The oligarchs keep finding ways to divide us peasants in our first world countries, and our narcissistic dumbasses keep falling for it every single time, and even go to the lengths to justify how great it is that we are instrumental to our own society falling apart this way. You need community and social connection to have a thriving democracy, that is a fundamental. Turning human beings into material commodities is the opposite of doing that, and then deciding to keep to ourselves because we can't find a human being good enough to 'buy', is on the road to creating the opposite of a durable social fabric. I can't say that the people in that mindset don't deserve the fascist hellhole that will be coming to collect its dues from their selfishness.

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  • Starts talking about e harmony then gets an ad for e harmony 😅

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  • I just think dating apps are pretty useful for single relationship ppls. But as far as i can suspiciously remember, not all are single in the dating app

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  • Coming generation. Will be in more dangerous poor or rich will be in control of robot we will untouchable

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  • I'm not in favor of online dating and I've made the comparison to shopping on eBay many years ago. However, let's not pretend that in person isn't just as transactional. In a way, we are always trying to "sell" ourselves when we see someone we like. We also "swipe" in real life if you think about it. I think scientifically it's proven that (for women, at least) that we can determine whether we like someone in a matter of seconds. Whether that lasts is a different story. But based on that, we either choose to engage / interact or walk away…much like all these apps. I guess the only upside to the latter is that it takes away the awkwardness of rejecting someone. Especially for people with social anxiety. But yes, it gets people in the fear of missing out mentality because the "next best thing" is always easily available. In person definitely requires more effort. I think some people would value their partners more if they remembered how hard it is in the real world vs disconnecting into the internet world of dating. And it's not just dating apps causing this effect, it's social media too. I've seen so many guys disrespect their girls following and liking pages of half-naked women. Makes it easy for them to have "backups". All of it is pretty disgusting and with how society is nowadays, dating seems pretty terrifying. I'm too drained to deal with heartache again

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  • The term 'dating' was something unheard of a time back. If you befriended a gal, you liked each other, you respectfully went to meet the parents and asked to take the lady out. This custom is still out there, but it is dwindling. And, soon, it is expected to be gone.

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  • dating apps are a waste of time, 85-90% of all profiles are AI/Alogrithim bots to get $$$$ end of topic. Then of the 10-15% of people who are real they are lower tier people than you would find at a club/bar/casino. men on grindr for example can't even have a basic conversation but are ok to come over to smash. sorry men i need to know someone before they smash with me, I have value on sex and my body. People on the apps are mostly idiots that spread STDS Dating in the late 80s early 90s had less bots, but people were more genuine those days are long gone.

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  • Yup and yup. I’m done with online dating. Meet someone thought he was handsome
    awesome and great.
    Talk for a few weeks then when we meet in person turned out to be a total jerk and crazy .
    I have been had…..
    oh no never again 👎
    So need to watch out..
    People don’t say who they really are …

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  • I tried every single dating app for years, and never once it ever worked for me. Could never find love. We live in a artificial world. I only wish I came from the world that my parents came from before the Internet and dating apps.

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  • I have been on two dating apps dates, weird to say the least.
    The first date the man failed to tell me that he had a girlfriend and wanted a second one because he was scared he would put potential partners off, that was um…awkward.
    The second date was incredibly socially awkward, he was red in the face and I struggled to talk to him but he sent me a message "you didn't like me, did you?"
    I sent him a message saying "His nervousness was making me nervous so usually I give people a second date to get over their nervousness"
    Then, because I had to travel 40 minutes to the date and he lived an hour away I thought he wasn't worth it because I had plenty of more matches so I told him that I didn't want a second date because of the distance I had to travel then I unmatched him and instantly felt regret and shame because I usually would give people a second chance and I usually would make more of an effort to travel to see them, I didn't even give him a chance to respond. It felt so dehumanising, it is not usually how I would react when I tell someone I don't want to see them again usually I allow the conversation to go on until we are both satified with the conclusion of the relationship. God, I will never do that again but I had so many matches as a girl so I could afford to just cut off the relationship and move on, it felt so cruel.
    Now, I decided to use the site differently. If I talk to a person for 5 minutes and I see they are trying to talk to me, I offer them a date then if I like them I give them my number at the date, If I don't like them I tell them straight away to their face so everything is done face to face not over text, then, once I have given them my number I can focus on that person and I don't go back on the app again until we both agree to end the relationship.
    Well, that is how I am going to do it in the future, I am not going to fall into the dehumanising trap again, I felt so bad, I even got depressed for a short while afterwards because I didn't want him to feel like I didn't care about him, I did care but it just never worked out but it did feel like I was window shoppong instead of dealing with a human being, my mind was like "Just unmatch, you have plenty more matches" WTF how did I fall into that trap of treating human beings like buying something from uber eats, it is awful but sadly there are people out there who don't see it as an issue, they think it is perfectly fine and normal.

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  • Saturday, July 1, 2023

    Courtney Ryan found her boyfriend on a dating website. Now they are happily engaged and planning their wedding. 💍💒

    A dating website is just a tool. 🛠️ The real problem is immature people, both men and women, with poor social skills, they don't know how to sort the wheat 🌾 from the chaff, they don't know how to be in a committed relationship, most Americans are so lazy, they have short attention spans, and they want instant gratification. 😕
    .

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  • Women have literally 1000s of matches, while you have a few a month at best.

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  • Dating apps are a waste of time. I've used them in the past and always got hurt. Never again. I think with the advent of online dating, it has made it harder for men especially to find someone. I'm 43 and never had a proper girlfriend. Online dating should be closed down because it causes so many problems.

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  • Oh my God! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! People are ALWAYS recommending dating apps. It’s so annoying 🙄. One thing I’ve noticed is it’s always the people who recommend them the most who actually use them the least.

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  • The idea that there is always someone better because of "unlimited" options is so wrong.

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  • Ironically half way through the video I get an ad for a dating app -_-

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  • Tinder just doesn't work for me. I have a buddy average looking guy that uses it and he gets matches all the time and dates but for me it's just ugly girls. Occasionally I might match with someone I like but, they are usually on there to boost there egos and have no intentions on meeting up. I'd consider myself decent looking guy and also I'm not an asshole, I make my own money and have my shit together for the most part but, I just don't get it. I gave up on the apps because they aren't really helping me and it's hurting my self esteem. I'd rather just focus on myself at this point, getting better at my social skill and physique and just give up on trying to find a girl.

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  • Exactly its dehumanizing. You're rating someone based on physical looks and lil bit of prolly high lighted description. Instead you should find the one you truly love, you'll see that the one truly love is not your typical checklist, its just theres something about them. That happened to me before, I was just starting taekwondo and I looked at this girl in the eyes, some reason, I don't know why but I just knew instantly that she was the one. Without even thinking about it, I forgot about every single crush I had and just wanted to be with this girl. I know she was the one. Sadly though, I didn't have the confidence, made excuses and didn't end up having the guts to even say a word to her until like a year later. At that point it was already too late and now shes gone. Its my biggest regret, I hope that one day we can meet up again and say a proper goodbye or maybe even become friends, idk

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  • I'm a male who has been off dating apps and have been celibate for three years now, and while I do miss dating and all that comes with it (incl. Intimacy), I can tell you that it's probably one of the best decisions I have made. My mental health has been much better and I don't miss those apps much at all. Now with A.I. being able to copy someone's face and image? I'll probably never get back on those apps again, as one of my biggest pet peeves is people wasting my time and I wanna make sure that I am talking to someone of age (20 is the lowest I'd go for a hookup, but 24 is the youngest for dating – I'm 26), that person is real, and has the intention of dating. What's worse is people having relationships with these A.I. robots?? Oh God, I'm out of here

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  • Here is an IT BACKEND PERSPECTIVE of how dating apps game most users
    https://youtu.be/K8SMzaKzVLo

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  • Swiper no swiping!

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  • What makes online dating hilarious to me. Is the extremely low chances of 'success'. Comparing it to gambling was extremely apt.

    On average, Men have a 0.3% chance of finding a match. Women have around a 12% chance. Tinder's stats are more readily available. 30% of the entire user base are married and an aditional 14% are in a committed relationship. In North america 75% of all users are male.

    You'd have a significantly greater chance of finding love at a bar by dressing well, being well groomed, exhuding courage and charisma and simply approaching a person you find attractive. If they're interested, they'll talk. If not, they won't. There isn't any toying around. Just don't do anything stupid. Be passionate and confident about your hobbies folks find that attractive.

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  • Sir who hurt you? Causeee idkk

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  • Do not ever use a dating app. They are all scams. The luciferian baby rape state is farming the desperation it is creating for us. I just forked over another $200 this time to tinder. Surely the biggest name isn't a scam but it is. After weeks it is as if the app is frozen in time. Nothing. I am swping daily. Nothing. I paid extra for a profile boost. The next morning a single scammer is trying to get me to go to snapchat for the scam. So as always in desperation I begin swiping right on everyone. Nothing. I must have swiped right on a hundred profiles just now. Not one single match. THEY ARE NOT SHOWING MY PROFILE NOT EVEN WHEN I PAY EXTRA FOR IT.

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  • Both ads I got while watching. Bumble and Hinge .

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  • Try plenty of fish

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  • 39 years old now… Women I have managed to meet from online dating have typically been far less attractive than their real life counterparts. The type of women who became my girlfriends would have been swamped with interest online, yet one gorgeous blond ex girlfriend of mine said 'nobody has paid her any interest ' after months of being in the UK on a gap year. The best strategy is to put yourself where the beautiful women are in real life. Everything else is just false economy.

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  • I love these dating app videos – I laugh at the time I spent on them

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  • I had 4 matches on bumble and none made an attempt to reach out. I really question what these people are even doing on a dating app cause the whole point is to find a relationship or hook up but I’m not into that. If you are looking for a relationship, match and don’t message the person PLEASE DO EVERYONE A FAVOR AND STAY OFF THE APP.

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  • Catfish and scammers are rife on dating apps, also prostitutes. So, yeh not a great way to meet genuine people.

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  • Honestly, I am the type of person, who is avoiding the whole dating scene, for this exact reason. I want a connection, but not based on appearance, but rather based on interactions, personality, and that feeling of "everything clicks perfectly."

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  • Revolt against the modern world.

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  • I met my ex fiance on tinder and he's was a cheating mentally abusive narcissist.

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  • I never understood dating apps even when they were first introduced to us. They are cringey, overrated, and dull. Sad how people rely on a stupid app to seek out their significant other. Go out into the world and socialize with people. Geez louise ain't that fucken complex.

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  • It must be a combination of younger ppl or highly narcissistic ppl that need that dopamine hit from a new candidate because I'm in my late 30s and I'm not looking for a guy that gives me the high feeling. I'm looking for a guy that makes me feel safe with him, that makes me feel like he cares. I don't need to be laying next to someone while wondering if there is someone else better for me. That's not a them problem, that is a YOU problem. You aren't satisfied with yourself or your own life that you are always seeking something out there but you never find it because what you truly need is within yourself.

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  • Thanks

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  • I’m a woman and at this point I’m genuinely starting to wonder if I should just approach guys and be the one to make the first move in person. I most likely won’t, but if I don’t, I’m basically just waiting for a guy to be brave enough to approach me. So my love life is basically in the hands of men. That’s fucked up.

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  • I think this "dopamine" concept that he is talking about also applies to a large margin of the mentally diseased "fake famous" content creaters that plague all social media platforms now seeking attention, validation, and free monetary handouts from random people and men addicted to porn; across the world. Yes, we are doomed….

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